We at Shihan Marc's Karate Academy subscribe to the Better Kids Institute. Every week, this organization sends out smart little pieces of parenting advice to help all of us stay tuned into to what is important. Below is a sample of one email. To learn more and sign up for this great program, click here. You will NOT be slammed with spam! This goes out every sunday.
Don't turn the TV off.
I know, I know in the past we have said that the TV
in one of the worst influences for our children (And
we still do) but in this particular case we are
recommending that it is OK, as long as you sitting
by their side when they watch. This will provide an
overabundance of teaching opportunities to coach
your children about integrity and character-driven
values.
When you see Britney Spears or Paris Hilton
frolicking around half naked, it's a great moment to
teach your daughter why that type of behavior is
unacceptable. When your son sees his favorite ball
player being questioned about steroid abuse, it's a
great time to explain why drugs are dangerous and
unacceptable. It's not hard to find everyday examples
all around you if you just look for them. Whenever you
see something that conflicts with the core values you
want your child to have, use it as an opportunity to
explain why they shouldn't do that.
We are not saying to intentionally expose your children
to the bad behavior, though. There's no need to rent
rated-R movies or take your child to "the wrong side
of town" when you can find ample teaching moments
nearby you every day.
To healthy, happy and safe kids,
Experts At The Better Kids Institute
Thursday, June 12, 2014
The 5 main types of bullying
The 5 main types of bullying
Bullying is one of the more serious problems facing children and teenagers today. It seems like a new child commits suicide because of problems in school every week. Parents and educators need to better understand the different types of bullying to identify the troubles that kids go through.
Physical Bullying
When most people think of bullying, they think of physical bullying. This includes any type of physical action that one child takes against another.
Kicking, tripping, slapping and smacking are all types of physical altercations that parents and teachers might see in schools. Many schools now have zero tolerance policies that keep bullied students from acting out against their aggressors out of fear of expulsion.
Verbal Bullying
When one child calls another a mean nickname or uses a rude word to describe that child, it’s a type of verbal bullying.
Far too many adults think that verbal bullying isn’t as harmful as physical bullying, but it can still lead to poor self-esteem, trouble concentrating in school and even depression.
Making racist or homophobic slurs and remarks, taunting, and intimidating children through non-physical means are other types of verbal bullying.
Cyberbullying
Cyberbullying came about as children of all ages grew up surrounded by the Internet. They can now harass each other through emails, attack their social networking pages and even send threatening tweets to others.
Cyberbullying also includes bullying done through online games played on video game consoles, smartphones and tablets and bulling done via text or picture messages.
Social Bullying
Emotional and social bullying is a type of bullying done to exclude a specific person or group of people. Some groups deliberately exclude a certain child from that group by making fun of the child’s appearance, clothing and hobbies.
Though some parents and educators don’t think twice about students spreading rumors, rumor spreading is a type of social bullying. Other types of social bullying include lying about a child to others, making rude gestures and playing pranks on a child.
Sexual Bullying
Both boys and girls use sexual bullying as a way to intimidate and exclude others. They call other students sexually derogatory names, they make rude gestures, they attempt to touch unwilling participants and they taunt others with pornographic photos and videos.
Students who are sexual bullies are more likely to sexually assault someone later in life. Identifying the signs of bullying helps protect those future victims.
Monday, January 20, 2014
Monday, January 13, 2014
Choosing the right martial arts school
The instructor has a black belt. They must know their art well enough to be able to teach this to any student, right? Not always and sometimes it can be a rare skill. A good teacher lies in the person not the belt. Just because the instructor can do amazing flying kicks doesn't mean he/she has the ability to deliver a lesson effectively.
The instructor has won tournaments all across the world, holds titles, trophies and awards in categories you didn't even know exist. Does this matter when choosing a good school? Almost never. The real challenge is can the instructor command a room in a way that engages all the students? Its not going to matter if the teacher knocked out the three-time reigning champion if he can't get a bunch of 5 year olds to line up.
On our new website we have a brief newsletter about how to select the right martial arts school. I encourage all new students to read this as I believe it is a great resource to help guide the dojo shopper into making a good decision about what karate school will be best with no bias. On top of that, I also wanted to elaborate more on this topic as I think it is the MOST important question a new student and his/her parents should have: How do I pick the right martial arts school?
The answer is: A good instructor. The location, the cost, the uniforms, the class size, the style, the appearance of the school are all second to the quality of the instruction received. The teacher having many years teaching experience is crucial, but equally important is the level at which they relay their teachings. Ask these questions when you observe a class:
The instructor has won tournaments all across the world, holds titles, trophies and awards in categories you didn't even know exist. Does this matter when choosing a good school? Almost never. The real challenge is can the instructor command a room in a way that engages all the students? Its not going to matter if the teacher knocked out the three-time reigning champion if he can't get a bunch of 5 year olds to line up.
On our new website we have a brief newsletter about how to select the right martial arts school. I encourage all new students to read this as I believe it is a great resource to help guide the dojo shopper into making a good decision about what karate school will be best with no bias. On top of that, I also wanted to elaborate more on this topic as I think it is the MOST important question a new student and his/her parents should have: How do I pick the right martial arts school?
The answer is: A good instructor. The location, the cost, the uniforms, the class size, the style, the appearance of the school are all second to the quality of the instruction received. The teacher having many years teaching experience is crucial, but equally important is the level at which they relay their teachings. Ask these questions when you observe a class:
- Does the teacher seem enthusiastic about teaching?
- Does he engage the student by name, provide positive and constructive feedback?
- Does the teacher seem to genuinely care about the progress of each student?
- Do the students seem tuned in to what is going on?
- Do the students seem eager to please the teacher not out of fear but admiration?
- Does the school have a student code or creed all the students are expected to uphold, does the teacher reinforce this?
- Does the teacher correct with authority but also friendliness?
- Are the students having fun?
Convenience is a factor, but should not be the only one. It may be worth the extra drive time or the price. Be careful of the schools that have really low tuition rates-these schools often times make up the cost by charging you initially undisclosed fees like promotions, testing, belt, organization memberships, etc. Ask about any other costs aside from the monthly rate.
A clean school is a school that is care for and can be a direct representation to the quality and level of service you can expect to receive.
All schools should let you take a few trial classes or at the minimum allow you to observe classes at no or very little cost to make your own assessment. Do not feel intimidated walking into a martial arts studio. They are a business just like anything else, and if they are smart they will want you to have all your questions answered before ever stepping on the mats.
Monday, February 18, 2013
Tuesday, February 5, 2013
So you just started taking karate...
Now what? Your classes consist of hand techniques, blocks, and kicks. Throw in a dash of self defense, play a skills game, and maybe have a life lesson delivered to you in a brief lecture. What can you do to improve your training outside of the dojo?
Like anything in life practice makes perfect. There are no short cuts or abbreviated versions of karate. Everyone must put in the same amount of time to reach the same points as others have before them. Some take longer to get there and that's okay, the only person you are racing against is yourself. I had one student say that another student was 'lucky' for receiving their yellow belt. 'Luck' has nothing to do with it; time, demonstration of skills, and working on self-improvement is how this student achieved yellow belt.
What you practice is up to you. You make the choices everyday to be better than you were yesterday. If your punch is not as powerful as the black belt in front of you, practice it. If your roundhouse kick isn't as high as the student next to you, practice. If your focus is a little fuzzy and your confidence is wavering, practice. No one can give you the skills you need to improve, only you can push yourself beyond.
The first step is self-awareness. When you become more aware of yourself and your abilities, the better you come into focus. By admitting where you need work, you just gave yourself a starting line. People who fail at something are people who tried. If you never try something then you will never risk failure, but on the other hand, you will never taste success.
Karate is an excellent method in which to learn more about how you can improve. With each belt and each added layer of material increasing in difficulty, you can see where you started, how far you have come, and how much further you have to go. BE PATIENT with yourself! This is what OSU means. Remember each time you fail, you tried and each time you progress you succeed. Draw from the energy in the dojo and carry it with you when you are outside of it.
Osu!
Like anything in life practice makes perfect. There are no short cuts or abbreviated versions of karate. Everyone must put in the same amount of time to reach the same points as others have before them. Some take longer to get there and that's okay, the only person you are racing against is yourself. I had one student say that another student was 'lucky' for receiving their yellow belt. 'Luck' has nothing to do with it; time, demonstration of skills, and working on self-improvement is how this student achieved yellow belt.
What you practice is up to you. You make the choices everyday to be better than you were yesterday. If your punch is not as powerful as the black belt in front of you, practice it. If your roundhouse kick isn't as high as the student next to you, practice. If your focus is a little fuzzy and your confidence is wavering, practice. No one can give you the skills you need to improve, only you can push yourself beyond.
The first step is self-awareness. When you become more aware of yourself and your abilities, the better you come into focus. By admitting where you need work, you just gave yourself a starting line. People who fail at something are people who tried. If you never try something then you will never risk failure, but on the other hand, you will never taste success.
Karate is an excellent method in which to learn more about how you can improve. With each belt and each added layer of material increasing in difficulty, you can see where you started, how far you have come, and how much further you have to go. BE PATIENT with yourself! This is what OSU means. Remember each time you fail, you tried and each time you progress you succeed. Draw from the energy in the dojo and carry it with you when you are outside of it.
Osu!
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